Today as I spoke with a coworker over lunch I was amazed at how this person could spend a whole hour talking about how bad her life was. How she just can't get ahead. She complained about her job, she complained about her husband and her kids. She also complained about how she feels deprived from the "good life" as she stated. Then her final words were "I guess I just got dealt a bad hand."

Well, those words haunted me the rest of the day. I kept thinking about those words. I started to question myself as to why would she say that. So I began to analyze it (bad habit I have of analyzing everything).

I thought who dealt her this hand and why does she feel she has to settle for the hand? Who choose her career? She did. Who choose her husband? She did. Who decided to have three kids? She did. Who decided that she is not enjoying "the good life" ( Which to me "the good life" is just waking up each morning) She did. Therefore, as far as I can tell she is the DEALER!

So why is she settling? Is she not aware that she is the dealer? She is the only one that controls her life. But yet, just like her millions and millions of people around the world are just settling. Why would anyone settle? Remember as kids how you knew what we wanted to be? A fireman, a nurse or a police officer. Why as adults did we not fulfill those dreams? Is it because we didn't believe in ourselves? Is it the fear of actually accomplishing something. Or do we just feel comfortable where we are at, and don't want to change? But yet, all these people that are settling and not wanting change, are the ones that are complaining about how bad their life is.

Remember, we all have our ups and downs. Some of us go through more downs than ups, but its all a matter of settling. You control your future. Your in the driver seat. But yet everyone can come up with hundreds of reasons not to change, but not a single excuse. Everyone can change their life, some just need to start with training wheels, as they slowly begin to take back the control of their future.

Stop settling! Reshuffle the deck and deal again and again!